Heating Up the Pages: Romances With Sex Toys
We’re huge fans our romance heroes and heroines using sex toys. That’s what inspires our Pleasure Pairings column.
Today, Elia Winters helps you cross off your #RubOneOutBingo square for “read a sex scene with partnered sex toy play.” Get your one-click finger ready because her books are fiery hot!
About Elia Winters
Elia Winters is a fat, tattooed, polyamorous bisexual who loves petting cats and fighting the patriarchy. She holds a Master’s degree in English Literature and teaches at a small rural high school, where she also runs the drama club. In her spare time, she is equally likely to be found playing tabletop games, kneading bread, cross-stitching, or binge-watching Marie Kondo. A sex educator and kink-positive feminist, Elia reviews sex toys, speaks at kink conventions, and writes geeky, kinky, cozy erotic romance. She currently lives in western Massachusetts with her loving husband and their weird pets.
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Heating Up the Pages: Romances With Sex Toys
It is the ides of May today! Fortunately, there’s nothing to beware, because I’m here to talk about sex toys.
If you’ve read my books, you may have noticed a trend: I nearly always include sex toys. I love them! I have a 20+ year history of buying vibrators (more than half my life), and in that time, I’ve become quite a connoisseur. I’ve come (heh) to understand how fun toys can be, not only alone, but also with partners. In writing erotic romance, I include toys most of the time because of the new dimension of possibilities they add to foreplay and sex.
Some of my books have more toys than others: in Three-Way Split, my recent MMF polyamorous romance, one of the main characters owns a sex shop. Those characters have fun with a number of toys. I have another book in that series coming out next week — Just Past Two, on May 20th — and for that book, I revisited an old classic: the remote-controlled vibrator.
My very first published book, Purely Professional, included a scene with a remote-controlled vibrator. A number of people asked me afterward where they could find a toy that worked like the one in the book, and at the time, in early 2014, there was very little on the market. All the remote-controlled vibrators I’d tried had been mediocre at best. I had to give disappointing news that I’d fictionalized this bullet vibe in service of the overall story.
But now, five years later, the tech situation is quite different. With the improvement of Bluetooth technology, and the availability of increasingly high-end vibrators, remote vibes have gone from meh to WOW. So for JUST PAST TWO, I had the characters play with a real-world vibe, even though they don’t name it in the book: the We-Vibe Sync.
We-Vibe has been on the sex toy scene for a while. I bought the first generation We-Vibe almost eleven years ago, shortly before I got married. That was a toy designed to be worn during partner intercourse, controlled directly by buttons on the device itself. It didn’t work really well for my husband and I, partially due to anatomy, and partially due to the design itself. Add ten years, and We-Vibe is now a powerhouse high-end toy manufacturer with a number of different amazing toys in its line.
I love lots of their products — the Wish and the Tango are two of my favorites — but they also redesigned that first generation partner vibe, resulting in a far superior product: the We-Vibe Sync. You can click through to read my Sync review here, which also contains some confessions and reflections on partner intimacy.
Like the original We-Vibe, the Sync is a U-shaped vibrator designed to be worn during partner intercourse. I don’t actually ever use it for this, honestly. Because of its design, it’s also great to wear as a discreet solo toy. It’s controllable by Bluetooth, so a partner can turn it on with their phone, and that’s just what Sam and Abby use it for in Just Past Two. They go out dancing at a club with Abby wearing the vibe, and this sparks all sorts of fun times that you’ll have to read about when the book comes out on May 20th.
If you’re looking for a remote vibrator, We-Vibe is a great company to check out, but they aren’t the only ones anymore. As always when buying sex toys, make sure you’re buying a body-safe material like medical-grade silicone.
And have fun! It’s National Masturbation Month!
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